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Action with a steady Purr brings Purpose to fruition. It’s like the Purr of a diesel engine - readiness to do the work. To me, nothing sounds as good as a diesel engine. Even when just idling - the sound alone is a steady reminder of its capability and readiness to handle whatever task it was handed. Its potential was a given. I used to hate the word “Potential” when I was growing up. I never saw it as a compliment. And while we're at it, I didn't like the word responsib

People have asked us, what is a "StandUpDude"? We knew it was bold and potentially offensive to call men to be men. Though the name may sound like a “calling out,” it’s not. No one likes being called out. Instead, it’s a "calling forward.” A calling forward of men who are willing to take the risk of being uncomfortable. A StandUpDude is a man willing to look at his life and wrestle with the question, “am I living full-on? -- Am I all-in? Am I willing, with God’s help, to do

People have asked us, why is your website called "StandUpDude"? We knew it was bold and potentially offensive to call men to be men. Though the name may sound like a “calling out,” it’s not. No one likes being called out. Instead, it’s a "calling forward.” A calling forward of men who are willing to take the risk of being uncomfortable. A StandUpDude is a man willing to look at his life and wrestle with the question, “am I living full-on? -- Am I all-in? Am I willing, with G

A Stand Up Dude accepts the risk, the work and the adventure to be the man that God created him to be. Standing is hard. Faith is hard. Men do the hard things. A Stand Up Dude does brave things. Let's be brave for this generation. Let's not make them wait for the next generation of men to stand. If we dont stand for something, the next generation will stand for anything. The world is watching. The world is waiting. Don't make them wait. We're not calling you OUT - We’re

Let’s face It.. we’ve all been through tough times at some point In our lives. Some occur because of decisions we have made, some have been through decisions made for us, and some just happen. When difficult times happen to us, we have a choice to make. Do we live as a victim, or as a victor? Let’s define the term “Victim Mentality” While there is no formal psychological definition of a victim mentality, a useful working definition is as follows: If you have a victim mentalit

Is your family driving you crazy? Do you struggle with establishing healthy limits in your relationships? Consider the blessing of healthy boundaries for your relationships. A boundary is a limit you set regarding what behavior you will tolerate from other people. Boundaries help define your identity and your integrity. When someone crosses your boundary, something inside of you will react. The reaction may be subtle or unmistakable. Either way, you will know something isn’t

When life seems overwhelming with problems, and hope seems lost…please don’t give up! What you are going through must be horrible and may feel like it’s never going to stop. I want to encourage you and give you hope, what you are experiencing is only temporary! It had a starting point, and most definitely has an ending point. It is NOT going to last forever, although it may feel that way. Here is the good news; when we get to the end of ourselves, meaning we have done everyth

Depression is real. If you are reading this, you may already know that. In some cultures, it can be dismissed as a myth or something that doesn’t deserve real treatment. However, if you do struggle with the symptoms of depression, there are steps you can take to make your quality of life better. Other times we jump to the conclusion that depression only means sad when really, it can affect people in a wide swath of ways: Loss of interest or pleasure in activities that were on

“Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.”  – Leo Buscaglia We can worry about almost anything: our job, our relationships, our health, our country, our money, our family, etc. Modern studies suggest worrying can negatively impact health because it can lead to unnecessary stress in one’s life. When we worry, we spend our time focused on what can go wrong or the negative things that can happen in life. Instead, we should be spending energy on rea

What is Addiction? Addiction is when a person is unable to consistently abstain from a substance or behavior (ASAM). It can be craving alcohol, medication, or other substances. It can be desiring to eat excessively, to shop, to have sex, to gamble, to be on social media, to work, or to exercise. Whatever it is – it controls you. Addiction may start with just one drink, enjoying the rush of a big win, or the thrill of swiping a credit card. The high makes everything worth it…

Porn. A word that has been normalized in our culture. A casual activity that can become a habit. A habit that can become an addiction. Porn is an addiction that can control your life, steal real joy and pleasure from authentic relationships, and always demands more. If you are addicted to porn and need help, you are not alone. Many people have to fight this battle every day whether they are male, female, young, old, married, or single. If you want to talk about this with some

Being alone is different from loneliness. One can be surrounded by people, connected with hundreds of friends on technology, or live with a large family and still feel lonely. Loneliness comes from the anxiety of lacking genuine connection with others. Or, even if someone does have a genuine connection with others, feeling like no one cares. If left unchecked, it can develop into feelings of low self-esteem or even self-loathing which can have devastating impacts on life. On

It can start with just one drink… A friend offers you a free one at a party, you are the only one at the restaurant not drinking, you have seen other people drink and it looks like “fun,” or a family member offered it to you when you were young and set you off a downward spiral into addiction. Whatever the case, somehow, somewhere, “just one drink” can turn into where you cannot get through a day or a week without needing a drink to soothe you, to cope, or to take away the pr

For a listing of suicide hotlines and help in many countries,  Click Here Do you feel like you want to escape life? Have you had suicidal thoughts? Have you made a plan? Have you attempted to kill yourself? Wherever you are – you are not alone. There is hope and you are not helpless. Chat now with us  if you need to talk to someone about it. There are other options besides suicide, even if you feel like you are in immense pain and suffering, there are other ways to make it st

Losing someone can be emotionally devastating. A wide chasm of emotions can erupt when you get that phone call or text, or when you say goodbye for the last time. Grief is not easy. In the “Intro to Psychology”, the textbook broke it down into five steps (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance) but it can be messier than that. The first time I saw grief, and not just in the movies like in the Revenge of the Sith when Anakin Skywalker lost Padme, was over 15 years a